Mediocrity, Is Just Enough Okay

Today, I went to a local coffee shop to meet a friend. As I sat and waited for him to arrive, I began to check out the employees and their interactions with the customers. A female employee caught my eye. Her body language made a statement and it screamed, I don’t want to be here. It was obvious she was bored and not happy that she had to be at work. Her interaction with customers was ok at best. I watched as she walked back to pour a cup of coffee. The cup tipped over and coffee went everywhere. She made a few negative comments in front of a customer. The customer was not very happy with her behavior and made the statement, “Seems like you really don’t want to be here.”  The employee responded, “I really don’t and I would rather be somewhere else.” The customer took her coffee and replied, “Thanks for the mediocre service.”

I said to myself, mediocre? Wow! She was right, it was mediocre service. Why are we satisfied with mediocrity? Why are we ok with being barely enough? I had to ask myself, what was really going on with this young lady? Why was she so discontent with her job? Where’s the gratitude that she had a job and is able to make a livinimageg for herself. I know a few folks who would love to have that job.

Why are we ok in America with mediocrity? Everywhere I look, people want to only do what is easy. When I think of mediocrity, I think about little league softball. Don’t get me wrong, I support our little ones being recognized for a job well done, however, we recognize everyone for doing an OK job. Everyone gets a trophy; even when they don’t deserve one. I am told the reason for this is to build self-esteem. My issue is that when we start with our kids at a young age this gives them the impression that it is ok to be so-so. Then as they grow up, they do just enough to get by and have an expectation that they are going to get a trophy every time. We are setting up false expectations and setting them up for failure. Mediocrity in our culture is celebrated, while great accomplishments are sometimes ignored or down-played because we don’t want to “show” someone up, or toot our own horn. This is often perceived as arrogance.

It was Andrew Carnegie who said, “People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents.”

Personal excellence is a better teacher. I call it personal excellence because it varies for all of us. I am not expecting anyone to be a Michael Jordon, but I do expect people to do their very best. Ordinary is everywhere. I challenge you to step outside of the pack and rise up beyond what is expected. Rise up beyond the norm and excel. You co-create your world. What does that look like? Are you ok with mediocrity, as in, just doing enough? I challenge you to go the extra mile and expand your capacity of achievement. You may be surprised with the results. Once you experience excellence your taste for mediocrity fades and can no longer exist in your world. You will never tolerate it again.

Just Think…I Almost Allowed

imageI almost allowed others interpretations of me to stop me from believing in myself.

I almost allowed others responses of my truth to stop me from loving myself.

I almost allowed others interpretations of love to be my interpretation of love.

I almost allowed others belief systems to stop me from creating my own beliefs.

I almost allowed others ideas to stop me from forming and pursuing my own ideas.

I almost allowed others interpretations of me to stop me from believing in myself.

I almost allowed others responses to spiritually to stop me from learning the truth regarding Universal truths.

I almost allowed others ways of being in relationships to be my way of being in relationships.

I almost allowed others ways of dealing with emotions be my way of dealing with emotions.

I almost allowed others ways of dealing with money to be the way I love others through money.

I almost allowed others words to be more powerful than the Universe.

Just think…I almost allowed

Today, I am allowing the Creator to teach me the proper way to heal my soul.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to give me the correct world view of myself.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to teach me how to speak the truth in love.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to develop my interpretation of love through spiritual love.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to create my beliefs through loving myself and being open to letting the Universe teach me.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to teach me the true meaning of a spiritual being on this planet.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to teach me how to have a loving and kind relationship with myself.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to honor my emotions because they will lead me closer to the core of grace.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to teach me money is a byproduct of loving myself and trusting that I am worthy of physical love alone and that there are no outside factors that can surpass this love.

Today, I am allowing the love of the Creator to teach me how words are powerful and my actions must match my heart.

Today, I am free to show up in the world exactly as me knowing that I am enough.

Just think…I almost allowed.

 

Unconditional Love

Love PhotoHave you ever thought about what unconditional love means? I found a couple of definitions and I resonated with one that refers to unconditional love as a noun and it states; affection with no limits or condition; complete love.  According to Elizabeth Reninger, “Unconditional love means love without condition, yes? Love without requirements, free of oaths and contracts, expectations and attachments. Love that is offered without the anticipation of getting something in return. Love that does not need to be coddled or catered to, in order for it to flow. Love given free of contingencies or qualifications. A Love impervious to approval or disapproval.” Wow, does this type of love even exist?

Have you ever experienced unconditional love? If you haven’t, you are not alone. Most of us put conditions on love. I will love you if you buy me something. I will love you if you meet me on my terms. That is not true love. True love is not conditional. It flows with ease and has no limits. For example, I think we all know what it feels like to have a beloved pet that loves us no matter what. I have two amazing dogs who have been to the end of the world and back with me. They love me no matter how I look or feel. They consistently show up in my world just when I need them to. They are a heck of a lot more consistent than others in my life have been.

So how might unconditional love show up in the world? When I love unconditionally:

  • I don’t wait on you to love me
  • I love you just as you are
  • I don’t put limits on relationships
  • I see the Universe as having no limits
  • I transcend all physical aspects of this world
  • All things are possible
  • My heart softens and lets you in
  • My life blossoms into a magnificent bouquet
  • My life expands beyond measure

Love requires choice. I firmly believe that you can choose Unconditional Love, because we can choose who we love or hate. They both require the same amount of energy. The one thing I know for sure is that every experience is either a call for love or a reflection of love; no exceptions. Take a moment and reflect on how you are showing up in the world. How wonderful it is to know that you have free will to choose how you will respond to your calls for love. Blessed it be.

Let Go And Let God

Let God PhotoWhen I was growing up in South Central Los Angeles, I experienced some tough times. I lived through the Watts Riots, the Rodney King Riots, the Cocaine Crack house experience and Gang Wars of the 1980’s. My family and I lived through some of the toughest times in Los Angeles. Through it all, I would hear my mom make the statement, Let go and let God. As a small child I did not have a clue what she was talking about. She usually made the statement when something was not going well or when something really bad happened. I distinctly remember her making that statement when my dad passed away. I began to associate this statement with bad stuff.

My first experience in using the statement was when my mom passed away. It was one of the most painful moments in my life. It was during that time I developed a personal meaning of letting go and letting God. I really didn’t think I would survive my mothers death, but somehow I did. It was as if I transcended the experience to get through it. I remember saying over and over again in my darkest hour, I let go and I let God. I didn’t have anything else to give. I was so empty. I cried all the time and when I would come up for air, I would say, let go and let God.

As I move through my many life experiences, I found myself using the statement. When I find myself in a situation that I don’t have the answers too, I shout it out. I also found myself in many other life situations where the statement helped me. Today, letting go and letting God fits not only the challenging stuff but it is also for those times when I need to make a decision. I may have to let go of something that is no longer fitting into my plans. Sometimes it means letting go of those whom we love. For example, a family member or a partner who may not be ready for your journey. Sometimes it is letting go of situations that no longer serve you or add value to your life.

In my most recent years, I find the statement to be a comfort for me as I expand on my spiritual journey. As I grow to higher levels of consciousness, I realize that I have to remain open because I don’t have all the answers. When I step out on blind faith I am allowing God to take control of my journey. Today, there is peace in knowing that the Divine is with me always; no matter how life shows up. Today, I am at peace knowing that no matter what happens in life, I can surrender to the knowingness that the Creator is with me through all of my life experiences.