We all need time to to unplug and reflect. Depending on what you are going through will determine the amount of time you need to unplug. Unplugging could be just taking a few hours to catch your breathe or taking a long vacation or retreat to get away from it all. There are formal retreats where you are guided in your process. There are retreats that are informal that you or a friend could facilitate. The important piece here is that you recognize when you need a time out.
Giving yourself time to reflect can be a powerful way to process life experiences that block you from being your best you. Only you can choose how your reflection time will unfold. If you go on a retreat, choose processes that work for where you currently are in life. Most retreats are a place for some serious soul searching and reflective work. You may find yourself going deep within yourself to seek out much needed answers. Be prepared to utilize various tools and processes that will assist you on your journey.
Meditation, prayer and journaling are a few tools that can be used in the retreat process. Talking a walk near water or a day hike in the mountain is a fabulous way to connect with your soul. It could also be a day of pampering or “me” time. When you put yourself in retreat mode, you can explore and prepare for your next steps. Also, when we pay attention to what the Universe has in store for us, we open up our hearts and minds to the amazing insights and understandings of our soul.
If you are among the majority of us letting go of what is no longer serving you and embracing the things that add value to our world can be rather challenging. Especially when dealing with difficult life changing events. It is usually quite hard to let go and move on, but once you do, you will feel free and realize it will prove to be the best decision you ever made.
Changing direction can be a fearful and painful process. However, you must never allow fear to determine your future. Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear exists only in our minds. Yes, it can be difficult to follow your heart when you are paralyzed by fear. But don’t allow your fears to deter you. Use fear as a stepping stone to take you where you intend to go. Hold your head up high and utilize it for all it’s worth. Keep pushing.
Some of us wait to make a move when change is involved. We wait for the perfect time before we take the first step. Let me say this, there is no perfect time to change. Oftentimes, the only choice you have is to let go and allow faith to take you where you need to go, because where you are is more painful then not changing. You realize that life is too short to wonder what might have been. You simply choose to be happy.
Realize that you are not the same person you may have been a year ago. You are in a different space today because you have chosen to embrace change. Accept that you are always growing and expanding. This is the beauty of life. We get to become better than we were before each and every day. And as we better ourselves, we become better to the people around us.
If you have not already done this yet, I encourage you to make a list of the changes you need to embrace in your life. Write down whatever or whomever is no longer serving your highest good. Remember, you are the only one who will see this list so be honest. Write in great detail how you plan to make these changes to better your life. Once you have compiled your list. Work on it everyday and check off each completed change. Don’t worry too much if you have to stay on an item a bit longer, than the others. We all know that change takes at least 30 days to take root before it becomes a habit. The satisfaction is in making a sincere attempt. I wish you the best of luck in embracing change.
Letting go is a necessary part of life. We have to let go of life experiences that are no longer serving us to free up space for new opportunities. We leave behind the past to make way for the present. Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care about others, it simply means you know that only you have control over your actions.
As we grow, we begin to understand what we need and what we need to leave behind. We know when it is time to walk away; which could be a step forward. We will never achieve our highest and best if we are attached to things we need to let go of. Sometimes people and things are not meant to stay in your life forever.
People are in our lives for a reason, season or lifetime. We have very few lifetime relationships. So why do we get so bent out of shape when the reason or season is over? We need to learn to stop attempting to make season and reason people into lifetime people. We must learn how to release people in love when their time in our lives has come to an end.
Growing and expanding can be one of the hardest things you may ever have to experience. Yes, it is painful but necessary for growth. The only thing I see as being more painful, is being stuck. Stuck in hurt, stuck in anger, stuck in despair, stuck in resentment. When I compare the two, I will take growth any day.
Don’t get me wrong, we all get caught up, there is nothing wrong with allowing yourself to grieve. Grieving is a healthy part of the process but don’ t get stuck there. Don’t be afraid to let go and embrace change. Change always happens for a reason. Go with it. It is never easy but you are so worth it. Remember, you are the star in your world. You and only you determines how your story begins and ends.
Sometimes you have to go back in time to heal the hurt. I think I need to say this again. Sometimes you have to go back in time to heal the hurt. So many of us are “walking wounded.” walking around with unresolved hurt from past experiences. We humans are so good at masking our pain. We have a smile on our face and act as if we are well and wonderful. In actuality, we are hurting and in desperate need of healing.
We have a Nike culture that reinforces “Just do it” even if you are in pain. We have a pull yourself up by your bootstraps existence. Have mercy on you if you can’t accomplish that. You are judged and put down if you show your pain. So, what do we do? We stuff our pain and go back out into the world and wonder why we have so many depressed, miserable, and unhappy people. I have found from my experience that when we are in pain, it is usually not from something currently going on in our lives. It is usually from a past unresolved hurt. We must go back and heal the past.
For example, if you have an interaction with someone and you feel a sting, take a moment and ask yourself what is this feeling all about? What is stimulating me? Where is this feeling coming from? This feeling may be calling forth healing in your life. Maybe it was a past hurt that happened a long time ago and you were not equipped to process the situation at the time. If this pain is causing you grief and persist, it may be time to take a closer look and begin your healing process.
We are so good at packing our bags with unresolved hurt and pain. If this looks like you, take a moment and identify what is going on. You may need a journal for this process. Once you start, you may identify different areas of your life that are also calling for attention.
Be grateful if you are able to identify these core issues. If you can, you can begin to do something about it! If you can’t identify what is getting to you it will continue to swarm around in your head until you do something about it. Once you get it out you can begin your healing process. You so deserve to move through life a little lighter. Give yourself the gift of space and free up some room for you to have a happy life.