We tell ourselves that we don’t deserve to be happy based on past experiences. This is the silliest untruth of all. What have you done in your lifetime to not deserve happiness? This is your birthright? Who implanted such a falsehood in your head?
Yes, you deserve happiness in abundance. The funny thing is you cannot have happiness while you hold on to the thought of anything less than that. Happiness flows to you when you fully expect it, not when you resist it. So, stop resisting it and start inviting it. Has anyone ever told you that you deserve happiness? No matter what we’ve done or where we’ve been. We all deserve to be happy. Thank goodness we are more than our experiences. But somehow we get stuck in this place that we don’t deserve to be happy.
Do you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I deserve to be happy?” No! Most of us leave our homes on a daily basis not even thinking about the goodness that is at hand. We all want great things to happen in our lives. But we are still thinking small. Playing the same old tune…”thinking-small-not-good-enough” tune. We play the tune like an old school record. And it is on repeat in the background of our daily interactions. “Not worthy…not worthy.”
We focus all day long on our looks, our success, our jobs and our treasures, so much that we never stop to look around and see the opportunities right in front of our face. And so we focus, focus, focus on all outer workings of a life. Then we get overwhelmed. Suddenly, the mission is too big to handle. We don’t know where to start. We figured it can’t be done and the light gets snuffed from our eyes. Changing your world starts with a single sentence. I deserve happiness. I deserve happiness.
Put your hand over your heart right now. Say to yourself, I deserve happiness. I deserve happiness. I deserve happiness. You are worthy of that. I dare you to say it so much that it wears holes in your pants and fringes your jeans. You deserve happiness. Say it. Everywhere. In every situation. No matter what the cost. You are worth it! And say it, only say it, because you mean it more than anything.
You must believe that you deserve happiness. This is not temporary happiness. We have to believe in a happiness that doesn’t disappear in the morning at the first crack of daybreak. A simple sentence like “I deserve happiness” should be spilling out of us. It should be urgent. It should be shoulder-shaking urgency. We should be saying that on repeat to one another. We should be meaning it more than we mean the road rage and the celebrity gossip that we engage in. We should be meaning it. Because some of us, we know how it feels to want to give up on this lifetime or want to go to sleep and never wake up. We’ve all felt the pulling of the threads that unravel, and we’ve all ached to get back to that place of Love.
This need for people to know themselves and that they are worthy of love… is so much deeper and real than we give it credit for. It’s not a quiet need. It is a real, raging, unsinkable need. We learn to turn away from validating ourselves because it takes more effort to say I deserve to be happy than buying milk at the grocery store. It takes more than a conversation on a computer screen. It demands more of our time, and we’re already so crazed that we don’t have enough time in the day. Who am I to add one more thing…like being happy? I don’t want life to suddenly work in a way where we turn inward, and we focus on all of our junk, and we think we need to be “fixed” in order to be happy.
I don’t know if anyone has ever thought to tell you, but you deserve happiness. You deserve to know that life means something. It would be sad if you weren’t here. And the world would miss out on the purpose you brought here in your arms. You deserve happiness. You deserve happiness. You deserve happiness! I want to speak that into your bones until you believe it. And you feel it. And you get strong enough to tell someone else that they deserve the very same thing. You deserve happiness. And you are so worth it my beloved.